'If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all'. A rabbit named Thumper taught me that back when I was just a little, little kid. It's still true today. I love your 'signals'. I also love your life observations. While a 'gender reveal' wedding cake might have been a little disconcerting for this boomer, mixed celebrations, I dunno. I would have, I hope, been as gracious as you were. Another saying 'Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than open it and remove all doubt.' I think Abraham Lincoln said that. It's a new world and we are moving past it. I just hope this generation leaves a better one than we did, for the next one coming.